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A Practical Guide to Taking Control of Your Life | Cate Hall | TED

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The real lever of a meaningful life isn’t intelligence or hustle — it’s personal agency, says Cate Hall, former Supreme Court attorney and once the world’s top-ranked female poker player. Sharing her journey from the throes of addiction to leading a multibillion-dollar foundation, Hall shares tactical wisdom for increasing your ability to see and act on life's hidden degrees of freedom, showing how even the most trapped among us can discover a path to fulfillment. (Recorded at TED2025 on April 9, 2025)

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  1. 00:04Five years ago,
  2. 00:06I was a prisoner in my own life.
  3. 00:09I was hopelessly addicted to drugs.
  4. 00:13Every morning I would get up,
  5. 00:15go buy drugs,
  6. 00:17and then spend the rest of the day using,
  7. 00:19barely conscious,
  8. 00:21until I passed out again at the end of the night.
  9. 00:24I spent months at a time like that.
  10. 00:28I don't have a lot of memories from that time,
  11. 00:31but one thing I do remember very clearly
  12. 00:34is this incredible sense of awe and resentment I felt
  13. 00:38just watching normal people do normal things.
  14. 00:41I would see somebody meeting a friend for lunch,
  15. 00:45and it would seem inconceivable to me
  16. 00:47that anybody could be that free.
  17. 00:50They could just decide what to do with an afternoon.
  18. 00:54This talk isn't about addiction per se,
  19. 00:57but I'm telling you this because I really need you to understand
  20. 01:01where I'm coming from, how trapped I was,
  21. 01:04before I tell you that my life is amazing now.
  22. 01:08I'm clean, first and foremost.
  23. 01:10(Applause)
  24. 01:16I'm married to an incredible man,
  25. 01:18and we get to do all sorts of fun projects together.
  26. 01:21And I'm CEO of Astera Institute,
  27. 01:23a multibillion dollar private foundation
  28. 01:25that's pioneering a new approach
  29. 01:27to supporting innovative science and technology.
  30. 01:30(Applause)
  31. 01:34What I do want to talk about today
  32. 01:36is how I got from point A to point B.
  33. 01:39What changed?
  34. 01:41It's not that I got smarter or that I started trying harder.
  35. 01:45I think what changed was even more fundamental.
  36. 01:48It was developing a sense of personal agency,
  37. 01:51which I think about as the capacity to both see and act on
  38. 01:56all of the degrees of freedom we actually have.
  39. 02:00It's about being able to find the hidden doors in the walls of life.
  40. 02:05I want to argue
  41. 02:06that when it comes to living a satisfying and meaningful life,
  42. 02:09agency is actually much more important
  43. 02:11than the things we usually think about as critical to success,
  44. 02:14like intelligence and hard work,
  45. 02:16both of which are next to useless if misapplied,
  46. 02:19and which are becoming less and less important
  47. 02:22as we increasingly outsource them to machines.
  48. 02:24I saw a quote recently from Garry Tan, the CEO of Y Combinator,
  49. 02:28that I really liked.
  50. 02:29He said, "Intelligence is on tap now,
  51. 02:32so agency is even more important."
  52. 02:37For all of the freedom that addiction took from me,
  53. 02:41I think it actually gave me an unnatural advantage
  54. 02:43when it came to cultivating agency.
  55. 02:46And that's because while agency has many mothers,
  56. 02:49one of them is certainly desperation.
  57. 02:52Addicts call this the gift of desperation, actually.
  58. 02:56The willingness to do whatever it takes to change your life,
  59. 03:01to embarrass yourself by standing up in front of a roomful of strangers
  60. 03:04and say, “My name is Cate, and I’m a drug addict.”
  61. 03:08Or to lock yourself away for months.
  62. 03:11Or to take medications that will put you in the ER if you drink.
  63. 03:15By the time I went to rehab,
  64. 03:17I definitely had the gift of desperation.
  65. 03:21I lost my job, most of my friends.
  66. 03:25For a time, I'd basically lost the ability to walk.
  67. 03:28And so when I left, I walked into a halfway house
  68. 03:32and a complete mess of a life.
  69. 03:37But in a way, I think that was actually good.
  70. 03:41Because I felt like I had nothing left to lose.
  71. 03:44And that made me fearless and hungry.
  72. 03:49I started saying yes to everything,
  73. 03:51every connection someone was willing to make
  74. 03:54in hopes it might lead to something that would help me get back on my feet.
  75. 03:57I remember just going for volume.
  76. 03:59It didn't matter if I could tell how something would benefit me.
  77. 04:03That's how I ended up meeting most of the people I've worked with
  78. 04:06in the last four years.
  79. 04:08Losing my sense of pride also helped me learn really fast.
  80. 04:12I had brain damage,
  81. 04:13which meant that I didn't always understand things,
  82. 04:16and I couldn't pretend that I did either.
  83. 04:19So I got good at saying, "I don't understand what you just said.
  84. 04:23Can you explain it to me?"
  85. 04:25in situations where before I might have just nodded along.
  86. 04:29Side note: people love to explain things.
  87. 04:32(Laughter)
  88. 04:33It's a total win win.
  89. 04:36Now I have great news,
  90. 04:37which is that you don't need to ruin your life and then rebuild it
  91. 04:41in order to learn to be more agentic.
  92. 04:43I do think it helps to be some kind of desperate,
  93. 04:46but there's always something to be desperate for.
  94. 04:50I felt that during COVID,
  95. 04:51as friends and I watched low-income countries struggle with vaccinations
  96. 04:55because they lacked adequate cold chain storage.
  97. 04:58So we created a company that created a shelf-stable vaccine,
  98. 05:02and we let that desperation drive us into clinical trials in under six months,
  99. 05:06faster than any start-up in history.
  100. 05:09I felt another kind of desperation early on in my marriage,
  101. 05:13when it seemed like there was an invisible wall between the two of us.
  102. 05:17So in desperation,
  103. 05:19I learned how to resolve the emotional barriers
  104. 05:22that made it difficult for me to connect with people.
  105. 05:27I don't think agency is innate.
  106. 05:32But I do think most people learn it through sheer luck.
  107. 05:36If it's not the luck of desperation,
  108. 05:38then maybe it's just the luck of seeing somebody highly agentic
  109. 05:41operating up close.
  110. 05:44I also think, though,
  111. 05:45that it can be learned systematically and by many more people.
  112. 05:51I want to share some of the tactics I've learned for becoming more agentic.
  113. 05:56First, assume everything is learnable.
  114. 06:00I gave the example of learning to connect with my husband,
  115. 06:03but I could have just as easily spoken from personal experience
  116. 06:06about learning to be more optimistic or curious.
  117. 06:10I think most traits that people treat as fixed
  118. 06:12are actually quite learnable.
  119. 06:15If you both believe that they are
  120. 06:17and put the same kind of effort into learning them
  121. 06:19that you would anything else.
  122. 06:22Second, court rejection.
  123. 06:26We spend our lives carefully avoiding it,
  124. 06:28but if you're only aiming for things you get
  125. 06:31you're doing yourself a disservice.
  126. 06:33In fact, sometimes you have to aim for things that feel unreasonable
  127. 06:37to make sure your instinct about what's reasonable is right.
  128. 06:41Last time I was applying for a job, I told a couple people:
  129. 06:44"I'm thinking about starting an organization much like your own.
  130. 06:47Can I run yours instead?"
  131. 06:49(Laughter)
  132. 06:50A little delusional, maybe.
  133. 06:53But the thing is, sometimes delusional works.
  134. 06:58Third, seek real feedback.
  135. 07:02Pretty much every one of us has something holding us back
  136. 07:05that we're completely blind to
  137. 07:06and that's obvious to other people.
  138. 07:10Don't you want to know what that is?
  139. 07:12The single best way to find out
  140. 07:14is to give people a way to tell you anonymously.
  141. 07:18I know that might sound scary,
  142. 07:20it was to me at first,
  143. 07:22but it can also be exhilarating.
  144. 07:25I have an anonymous feedback box linked to my Twitter profile,
  145. 07:29and it has honestly been life-changing,
  146. 07:31not just in terms of the specific feedback I've gotten,
  147. 07:34but in knowing that I'm not trying to hide things from myself anymore.
  148. 07:41If I could go back in time five years
  149. 07:45and talk to the person that I was then
  150. 07:48and tell her that I would one day experience that kind of freedom,
  151. 07:53to not have to hide things,
  152. 07:56to do whatever I feel like with my afternoons,
  153. 08:01to be basically happy.
  154. 08:07I would not have believed it.
  155. 08:12But that is the power of personal agency.
  156. 08:16No matter how stuck you are,
  157. 08:18if you can learn to locate the doors hidden within you,
  158. 08:22you can unlock inconceivable kinds of freedom.
  159. 08:28Thank you.
  160. 08:29(Applause)