A Full Dopamine Detox Protocol To Reset Your Life In 30 Days
Here's how to turn your life around in 30 days.Reset your life in 90 days: https://stan.store/thedankoe/p/superhuman90The pain & gain story prompt: https://d...
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You Need To Reset Your Life
- 00:00This is for those times where life
- 00:02starts to lose its wonder and zest. When
- 00:04you feel more tired than you do calm.
- 00:07When you may not realize you're using
- 00:08coffee as a security blanket. When you
- 00:10start to notice dark circles under your
- 00:12eyes. When you look back to a time where
- 00:15life felt seamless and almost magical.
- 00:17Because there's a harsh reality of
- 00:19living in today's world. By simply
- 00:21living, we take on risk. But not the
- 00:24good type of risk. The risk of binge
- 00:26tech like social media, streaming,
- 00:28gaming, and news. The risk of simulated
- 00:30sexual stimulation like pornography, and
- 00:33dating apps. The risk of consumables
- 00:35like alcohol, drugs, and junk food. The
- 00:37risk of thrillseeking like gambling,
- 00:39shopping sprees, or extreme sports. Now,
- 00:42I'm not one to demonize your actions
- 00:43here. I'm not a saint by any means. I'm
- 00:46just a guy who studies weird stuff and
- 00:48shares what he learns on the internet
- 00:49for money, sure, but also meaning.
- 00:52Because if I wanted to get filthy rich,
- 00:54I'd start a religion. Most people online
- 00:57love to put on this guise of perfection.
- 01:00They'll be the first to tell you when
- 01:02you're doing something that's just
- 01:04slightly bad. But when you look at their
- 01:06life, they're usually not in the
- 01:08physical, mental, spiritual, or
- 01:10financial situation that you would ever
- 01:12want to be in. And that's the thing.
- 01:13You've done what someone else thinks is
- 01:16bad at least 5 to 10 to 100 times this
- 01:19week. and so have the people that think
- 01:22what you're doing is bad. And that's
- 01:24fine. But we're not here to discuss
- 01:26morality behind all of this. Instead, I
- 01:29want to talk about this. When you live
- 01:30in today's world of convenient quick
- 01:33pleasures, and if you don't want to
- 01:34become a monk, because if you did want
- 01:36that, it's out of ego, which I find
- 01:38funny, then you need a tool to perform a
- 01:41factory reset on your life. Humans
- 01:44create tools to solve problems.
- 01:46Technology creates problems, but it also
- 01:48allows humans to do what used to be
- 01:50impossible. Meaning, in this world of
- 01:52technology, you need some kind of tool
- 01:55to mitigate the problems that technology
- 01:58causes. If you're not going to go and
- 02:00live off in the woods, then you need to
- 02:02implement something into your life that
- 02:04helps mitigate the risk of using your
- 02:06phone, using the internet, being around
- 02:08cheap and convenient foods, etc. So, if
- 02:11you do what we're going to talk about at
- 02:12least once a year for 30 days at a time,
- 02:15you will buffer the consequences of
- 02:17modern life. In other words, you will
- 02:19bring that childlike wonder back into
- 02:23your life. That feeling of not caring,
- 02:26that feeling of non-narrow-mindedness,
- 02:28of open-mindedness, of not being stuck
- 02:30in your head all day and actually being
- 02:32able to experience life on a deeper
- 02:34level. So, before we talk about the
- 02:36actual dopamine detox protocol, let's
- 02:38talk about the brain. Let's talk about
- 02:40what's going on, why this cheap dopamine
- 02:42epidemic is such a problem. And I also
- 02:44want to note that Superhum 90, which is
- 02:47a protocol to reset your life in 90 days
- 02:49instead of 30 like we're talking about
- 02:51in this video with training, nutrition,
- 02:53and lifestyle systems, that goes live on
- 02:55October 28th, and the price increases
- 02:58then. So, if you want to check it out,
The Cheap Dopamine Epidemic
- 03:00link in the description. Your brain
- 03:01operates on a salience network, meaning
- 03:04whatever provides the most dopamine
- 03:06becomes the most important. I think you
- 03:08can already see how big of a problem
- 03:09that can become. But let's have some fun
- 03:11and let's break it down. As we've
- 03:13discussed way too many times, Mihi
- 03:15Chickpet Mihi, the godfather of flow,
- 03:17the flow psychologist, he found that
- 03:19flow states or the optimal state of
- 03:21human experience or just pure enjoyment
- 03:24require a specific skill to challenge
- 03:27ratio. If the challenge of a goal is too
- 03:29high for your skill level, you get
- 03:31anxious. If the challenge is too low,
- 03:33you get bored. You wouldn't fight a
- 03:35level 100 character when you are a level
- 03:37one. It just doesn't make sense. Over
- 03:39stimulation destroys the potential for
- 03:42flow states or enjoyment because it
- 03:44raises the bar for what you consider
- 03:47stimulating. Everything that is more
- 03:48boring than your phone, gambling, porn,
- 03:51partying, and the rest is automatically
- 03:53labeled as boring by your brain. So, a
- 03:56dopamine detox has become a
- 03:58well-marketed way of resetting your
- 04:00baseline for stimulation. And it works
- 04:02so well for three reasons. The first is
- 04:05that boredom is the gateway to novelty.
- 04:08Carl Young, OG psychologist, harped on
- 04:10the importance of shadow work or
- 04:12confronting the uncomfortable aspects of
- 04:14ourselves we typically avoid. Sitting
- 04:16with boredom does just this. It
- 04:18activates breakthrough insights. When
- 04:20the rational mind stops trying to solve
- 04:22everything, it reveals our authentic
- 04:24desires beneath external conditioning.
- 04:26It sets the scene for three flow
- 04:28triggers, making you more likely to
- 04:30enter a season of intense learning and
- 04:32building. The first trigger is deep
- 04:34embodiment, so being present with
- 04:35discomfort. The second is novelty,
- 04:38because boredom forces you to seek new,
- 04:40healthier stimulation. And the third is
- 04:42unpredictability, not knowing what will
- 04:44emerge from the void. You're bored
- 04:46because you don't have a quest. You
- 04:48don't have a quest because you're
- 04:50playing someone else's game. And
- 04:51counterintuitively, the solution is to
- 04:54stop playing any game and sit with your
- 04:57boredom until your own becomes clear.
- 04:59Now, the second reason that dopamine
- 05:01detoxes work so well is that the brain
- 05:03will upregulate dopamine receptors when
- 05:05deprived. Because hyonic adaptation is
- 05:08your psychological thermostat. No matter
- 05:10how high or low the temperature goes, it
- 05:13always tries to return to the set point.
- 05:15This creates what psychologists call the
- 05:17hydonic treadmill. You're always running
- 05:19toward the next source of pleasure, but
- 05:20the satisfaction never lasts. Each
- 05:22experience becomes your new normal,
- 05:24requiring more intense stimulation to
- 05:26achieve the same emotional high. But
- 05:28when you deprive yourself of pleasure,
- 05:31the opposite happens. It's a hydonic
- 05:33treadmill reversal. Slowly, then
- 05:35rapidly, simple pleasures become
- 05:37enjoyable again. You experience what the
- 05:39Buddhists call beginner's mind. You
- 05:41notice the detail in the sky when you
- 05:43walk outside. You notice the hint of
- 05:45rosemary in a well-cooked meal. life
- 05:47becomes electric as it should be. Now,
- 05:50the third reason a dopamine detox works
- 05:52is that you don't need motivation, you
- 05:55need clarity. Now, Nal said, "All of
- 05:57humanity's problems stem from man's
- 05:59inability to sit quietly in a room
- 06:01alone." So, think about that. When was
- 06:03the last time that you actually created
- 06:05space for emergence? Because that's how
- 06:07reality works. Through chaos or a change
- 06:10in perspective of chaos, order emerges.
- 06:13And when I hear that, I can't help but
- 06:15think about this image. A dopamine detox
- 06:18creates space for sensemaking. That is
- 06:21processing and integrating experience.
- 06:23In the information age, modern
- 06:25technology creates a context collapse.
- 06:27Our brain is only capable of processing
- 06:29so much information around 50 bits of
- 06:31information per second through our
- 06:33conscious attention. So, if you were to
- 06:35binge on food over the course of a
- 06:37month, you would probably gain a good
- 06:39amount of fat. Now, if you were to binge
- 06:41on information from social media, as an
- 06:43example, every day since you've had the
- 06:46app installed on your phone, you're
- 06:48walking around mentally obese, and you
- 06:50don't notice it because it's become
- 06:52normal. It's homeostasis. Now, when you
- 06:54deprive yourself to the point of
- 06:56boredom, you're almost forced to
- 06:58confront all of the problems that you've
- 07:00suppressed over the years. Now, it will
- 07:02be painful, but if you sit with it long
- 07:04enough, you'll receive a burst of
- 07:06clarity that launches you into a new
The Dopamine Detox Protocol
- 07:08phase of life. So now we can talk about
- 07:10the actual dopamine detox protocol. What
- 07:13are we going to do for the next 30 days?
- 07:15Now the ultimate goal isn't to become an
- 07:17aesthetic or a monk or go off and live
- 07:20in the woods and never experience modern
- 07:21pleasures again. The goal is to develop
- 07:24sovereignty and agency. The capacity to
- 07:27choose consciously rather than to react
- 07:29compulsively. the capacity to notice
- 07:31where your life is heading, generate new
- 07:33goals that align with the future you
- 07:35want, and act toward those goals without
- 07:37permission from anyone else. A periodic
- 07:39detox is a calibration tool to keep you
- 07:42on track every 6 to 12 months. And this
- 07:45creates the foundation from what our
- 07:47Lord and Savior, Mihi Chic, Mihi,
- 07:49considers the highest human aspiration,
- 07:51a life composed of flow states where
- 07:53challenge and skill dance in perfect
- 07:55harmony, creating meaning through
- 07:57engaged attention and action. With all
The Pain & Gain Story
- 07:59of that said, here's the protocol. Step
- 08:01one is the pain and gain story. Because
- 08:04before we continue, there's a problem.
- 08:06You've watched this far. You like what
- 08:09you're hearing. You're motivated to
- 08:10change your life. But we all know that
- 08:12unless you set the stage for an identity
- 08:15shift because all lasting behavior
- 08:17change is identity change. You will give
- 08:19up in 2 weeks like always. So, you need
- 08:22to create a visceral, emotional, and
- 08:24specific story. Two stories to be exact.
- 08:27one for where your life will end up if
- 08:29you keep living in pain and one for who
- 08:31you will become if you decide to change.
- 08:33Now, for things like this, I love using
- 08:36AI. I don't like having AI tell me what
- 08:38my pain story is or my gain story is
- 08:41because it needs my personal context.
- 08:42That's when I like using AI. So, when I
- 08:44have to amply give it my personal
- 08:46context and it can string things
- 08:48together and show me things that I
- 08:49didn't know before and it can just be
- 08:51difficult to dig into your own head and
- 08:54find out what these things are. Usually
- 08:56it comes through a few months of just
- 08:59going about life and having
- 09:01conversations and noticing little things
- 09:02here and there that you pick up and you
- 09:04realize, oh yeah, I don't want that. I
- 09:06do want that. Now I have a piece of this
- 09:08story. But you can get that faster by
- 09:10conversing with AI in the correct way.
- 09:13So I created this extremely extensive AI
- 09:16prompt to ask you questions and to help
- 09:19determine what your pain and gain story
- 09:21is. And this is the foundation for
- 09:23having the motivation to actually
- 09:25change. Now, a disclaimer here is that I
- 09:27programmed this to be pretty intense. I
- 09:29told it not to hold back. It digs deep
- 09:31and it tries to get to the root of your
- 09:33motivation. Now, this is just one prompt
- 09:35that I'm giving away for free, but there
- 09:37are four more in Superhum 90, the
- 09:39complete life reset in 90 days that I
- 09:41talked about before. Link in the
- 09:43description if you want more of that.
Go Monk Mode
- 09:45Now, step two in the protocol is to go
- 09:47monk mode. Because if you've never done
- 09:49this before, it'll be difficult. And if
- 09:51you don't have a deep intrinsic reason
- 09:54to see it through, you will probably
- 09:56give up very quick. That's why step one
- 09:58is so important. Now, for 30 days,
- 10:00you're eliminating binge tech, social
- 10:02media, streaming, gaming, news, a
- 10:04natural sexual stimulation, porn and
- 10:06dating apps, consumables, alcohol,
- 10:08drugs, junk food, sweetness in general,
- 10:10and thrillseeking. So, gambling,
- 10:12shopping sprees, extreme sports. Now, if
- 10:14you're asking, "What will I do with my
- 10:16time, then?" That's the exact problem.
- 10:18What do you mean, what do you do with
- 10:20your time? You do what non-addicted
- 10:22people do. You move. You exercise. You
- 10:24talk to people. You prepare your food.
- 10:26You learn and build toward your goals.
- 10:28And when you aren't doing those things,
- 10:29you sit with the boredom until it's no
Walk 10,000 Steps A Day
- 10:31longer boring. Now, getting into things
- 10:33that you can actually implement in your
- 10:35lifestyle. Step three is to walk 10,000
- 10:38steps a day. Sounds simple, but hear me
- 10:40out. Now, the funny thing here is that
- 10:4210,000 steps a day was actually a
- 10:43marketing gimmick to help sell
- 10:45pedometers. The sweet spot for walking
- 10:47is actually 7,000 to 8,000 steps. That's
- 10:50where most of the benefits are received.
- 10:5210,000 steps just sounds nicer. Now, why
- 10:55go on more walks? For most untrained
- 10:57people, it's a form of lowintensity
- 10:59cardio. It improves digestion, blood
- 11:01pressure, and insulin sensitivity,
- 11:02helping you to get and stay lean. You
- 11:04finally get some sunlight to unfuck your
- 11:06circadian health. It's an undistracted
- 11:08time to learn something new. So, listen
- 11:10to an audiobook or lecture. You can
- 11:12resolve mental turmoil and reflect on
- 11:14your life. and you can generate ideas
- 11:16that can be put to use in your deep work
- 11:18sessions. Now, specifically here, I'd
- 11:21recommend the 3x 20 method. That's what
- 11:23I'm calling it. And what it is, super
- 11:25simple. You walk three times a day, 20
- 11:28minutes after each major meal,
- 11:30breakfast, lunch, dinner. Cuz one, 20
- 11:32minutes is more than doable. Two, if you
- 11:34do that three times a day, you get all
- 11:36the benefits. That is probably going to
- 11:38equal 7 to 8,000 steps, and you'll
- 11:40probably hit 10,000 if you walk at any
- 11:43other time during the day. Because the
- 11:44thing here is if you do it morning,
- 11:46afternoon, night, you get morning
- 11:48sunlight, afternoon sunlight, evening
- 11:50sunlight, which will drastically
- 11:51increase your sleep quality. You'll be
- 11:53dropping water weight and inflammation
- 11:55if you've never done this before. And
- 11:57you're going to notice a decently
- 11:59drastic change in how you look and feel
- 12:01within the first 7 days. And this is
- 12:03considering you live the average
- 12:04American lifestyle. And this is in the
- 12:06context of the entire dopamine detox
- 12:09protocol. The 10,000 steps is to just
- 12:10get you moving. Now, the fourth one
Go To The Gym (Seriously)
- 12:12building on top of that is to go to the
- 12:14gym. Seriously, because when I look and
- 12:17feel terrible, I don't want to do
- 12:19anything with my life. I want to hide
- 12:21from the world. I don't feel confident
- 12:23in my actions. So, I stop caring even
- 12:25more. I let myself go. I binge eat. I
- 12:28have zero discipline and simply feel
- 12:30worse. Now, I personally believe that
- 12:32every single person should do some form
- 12:34of resistance training. Cardio is great,
- 12:37but so is a bit of muscle mass. In my
- 12:39own life, I like going to the gym and I
- 12:41like walking. Sometimes I do do cardio
- 12:44in the morning and I've actually been
- 12:45doing more of that just 20 minutes first
- 12:47thing when I wake up. But the other
- 12:48thing here is that frankly, nobody wants
- 12:50to look like a runner. And I'm talking
- 12:52about runners who only run and don't
- 12:54lift or didn't build their physique by
- 12:56lifting and then start running. And
- 12:58people think that they got their
- 12:59physique from running. That's not how it
- 13:00happens. And it's okay to not lie to
- 13:02yourself. Men, you want broad shoulders
- 13:04and a Vtaper. Women, you want the
- 13:06hourglass figure. It's a survival
- 13:08mechanism. And you will only create that
- 13:10physique in the gym or through some form
- 13:12of resistance training. You can do
- 13:13calisthenics, you can do at home
- 13:15workouts, but the most optimal way and
- 13:17arguably the most enjoyable way is to
- 13:18just go to the gym. And no, ladies, you
- 13:21will never get too bulky. Men have been
- 13:22trying to do that their entire lives and
- 13:24they still can't do it. Now, beyond
- 13:25that, 30 plus minutes of exercise
- 13:27provides steady and sustainable dopamine
- 13:29release. Physical movement is one of the
- 13:31most reliable flow triggers. It creates
- 13:33BDNF or brain derived neurotrophic
- 13:35factor supporting neuroplasticity.
- 13:37Strength training lowers risk of heart
- 13:39disease, diabetes, cancer, and early
- 13:41death. Plus, muscle protects against
- 13:42frailty as you get older. More muscle
- 13:45equals higher BMR equals you can eat
- 13:47more without gaining fat. And it boosts
- 13:49mitochondrial density and efficiency,
- 13:51which equals more energy. And I don't
- 13:53want to hear the regurgitated lifting
- 13:55weights is risky and can get you injured
- 13:58because the answer is yes if you're
- 14:00stupid or don't know what you're doing.
- 14:02So, first learn about it. Two, go to the
- 14:04gym. Three, if you want my training or
- 14:06also my trainer's training that he's
- 14:08given me because Superhum 90 was created
Do An Elimination Diet
- 14:10by both of us, check that out. Now, step
- 14:12five is to do an elimination diet
- 14:14because I love health and fitness. It's
- 14:16been a passion of mine for 15 years now
- 14:18since I was 15. I just turned 29
- 14:21yesterday. And yes, when I was 15, I was
- 14:23obsessively tracking calories and
- 14:25macros. I've tried every diet under the
- 14:28sun. But since I've tried every diet
- 14:29under the sun, I understand that they're
- 14:31all based on a few principles and I try
- 14:33to be non-dogmatic about all of them.
- 14:35With that said, I do think that everyone
- 14:37should do an elimination diet at least
- 14:39once in their life. Why? Because it
- 14:41nearly guarantees a drastic boost in
- 14:44energy. Two, you'll also lower
- 14:45inflammation and drop water weight,
- 14:47making you look 10 lbs lighter with a
- 14:49tighter jawline. If you actually commit
- 14:51to it for 30 plus days, you will rewire
- 14:53your eating habits and potentially
- 14:55become disgusted at the thought of
- 14:57eating hyper palatable foods again. And
- 14:59you may find foods that create digestive
- 15:00problems, skin problems, headaches, or
- 15:02foods that just make you feel terrible
- 15:04without you noticing. So, to make this
- 15:06simple and not have this video drag on,
- 15:08just try the vertical diet. It's by Stan
- 15:10Efforing. Many bodybuilders swear by it.
- 15:12Many other people swear by it, but
- 15:13here's an image. It's pretty simple. red
- 15:16meat, very nutrient-dense, white rice,
- 15:18easy to digest, and micronutrients from
- 15:21various other things. Literally, just
- 15:22follow this graph. But this is the diet
- 15:24that I kind of return to when I need to
- 15:26go back to a baseline, when I find
- 15:28myself going out too much or going to
- 15:30Chipotle after the gym and starting to
- 15:32feel worse or look puffier in the face
- 15:34in the morning. But yeah, try it out.
Build A New Project That Increases Your Potential
- 15:36Now, step six is to build a new project
- 15:39that increases your potential. Now,
- 15:41listen to this carefully. The best way
- 15:43to learn is to build a real world
- 15:45project and only search for information
- 15:47when you need it. How much you learn is
- 15:49directly correlated with how much
- 15:50progress you make on the project. When
- 15:53you watch endless tutorials, you fill
- 15:55your mind with noise and chaos. Most of
- 15:57that information goes to waste. It leads
- 15:59to overwhelm, anxiety, and slows down
- 16:01how fast you learn. Now, when it comes
- 16:03time to build the project, because the
- 16:05only reason you're learning in the first
- 16:06place is to build the project, you feel
- 16:08as if you learn nothing and you have to
- 16:10search for the information anyway. So,
- 16:12if you want to learn faster, skip the
- 16:15tutorial phase. Outline a project first.
- 16:18Now, this confuses a lot of people. What
- 16:19do you mean by a project? A project is
- 16:21anything. Your health can be a project.
- 16:24Your business can be a project. A thing
- 16:26in Photoshop can be a project. A project
- 16:28is simply a structured way of achieving
- 16:30a goal or making progress toward a goal.
- 16:32It's a way to further narrow your frame
- 16:34of reference so your mind biases the
- 16:36right information as you learn. As you
- 16:39read books, study tutorials, or have
- 16:41conversations, good dopamine will spurt
- 16:43into your brain to signal that
- 16:44information is important for the
- 16:46completion of the project. Your
- 16:48subconscious will munch on problems and
- 16:50send relevant ideas to your conscious
- 16:52mind. This is what creatives call shower
- 16:54thoughts. It's when the default mode
- 16:56network in your brain is active when you
- 16:58are at rest. Charles Darwin worked on
- 17:01his projects and focused blocks, then
- 17:03went on long walks. And on these walks,
- 17:05his brain was at rest and potential
- 17:06solutions to problems pop into his head.
- 17:09Now, here's how you start a project.
- 17:11Choose something to build that moves the
- 17:13needle toward what you want in life.
- 17:15Now, from earlier, this is your pain and
- 17:17gain story. Create a note or document
- 17:19and brain dump everything that comes to
- 17:21mind. Save three to five sources of
- 17:23inspiration that you want to emulate. If
- 17:25I'm creating a YouTube video as a
- 17:26project, I would save three to five
- 17:28YouTube videos I would want to create
- 17:30similar iterations of. Study those
- 17:32sources and break down their structure
- 17:33or characteristics. Outline the project
- 17:35into sections, milestones, images,
- 17:38inspiration, and what you need to know.
- 17:40And last, have a place to capture ideas
- 17:42that come to mind. Preferably somewhere
- 17:44you don't lose the ideas or forget about
- 17:46them. So, now that you're ready to
- 17:47start, don't start learning. Just start
Reflect For 10 Minutes Every Night
- 17:50the project. Now, step seven, and
- 17:52arguably the most important one that
- 17:54nobody does, is to reflect for 10
- 17:57minutes every night. Because your brain
- 17:59is constantly trying to process your
- 18:01experiences, and when you don't give it
- 18:02dedicated time, it hijacks your
- 18:04attention at the worst possible moments.
- 18:06This is the zygarnic effect. Your brain
- 18:09holds on to incomplete tasks and
- 18:10unprocessed experiences, creating
- 18:12tension that drains your cognitive
- 18:14resources. So reflection helps close
- 18:16open loops for the day among other
- 18:18things like it is an active
- 18:20metacognition or thinking about your
- 18:22thinking the highest form of human
- 18:24intelligence. It builds a feedback loop
- 18:26for progress and after 30 days you'll
- 18:28have 30 data points about what actually
- 18:30moves your life forward. It transforms
- 18:32mistakes into data rather than regrets
- 18:35and it reduces decision fatigue for
- 18:37tomorrow. So, set a non-negotiable alarm
- 18:40for 9:30 p.m. or 30 minutes before
- 18:43bedtime. And use the 321 framework.
- 18:46Three wins, two lessons, one intention
- 18:49for the morning. Use a physical
- 18:50notebook. Don't go down any digital
- 18:52rabbit holes, especially before bed. And
- 18:54you can start with 2 minutes if 10
- 18:56minutes feels like too much. The
- 18:58dopamine detox clears the noise. The
- 19:00walking creates space. The gym builds
- 19:02confidence. The diet optimizes your
- 19:04biology. The project gives you purpose.
- 19:06Reflection is how you track mental and
- 19:08spiritual progress. Thank you for
- 19:10watching. If you want to learn a high
- 19:12income skill in today's world, or you
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