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  1. You are going to give up, and that's okay

  2. 00:00you're probably going to quit your New Year's resolution, and that's okay. Most people do. Studies actually show that
  3. 00:07it's around 80 to 90% of people quit their New Year's resolution. And that's because most people don't actually want
  4. 00:13to change on a deep internal level. And with New Year's resolutions going into
  5. 00:182026, people just go about changing their life in the completely wrong way.
  6. 00:23And to me, that's sad because if you're changing your life, that has to be one of the most important things in your
  7. 00:29life, right? That has to be the only thing on your mind, you think. But for most people, it's just another thing to
  8. 00:36try to do and fail and go back to the life they were living. So when people try to change their life, what they do
  9. 00:43is they create a New Year's resolution because everyone else does. And humans want to impress others more than they
  10. 00:50want to impress themselves. We create superficial meaning out of status games, but they don't meet the requirements for
  11. 00:57true change, which goes a lot deeper than convincing yourself you're going to be more disciplined or productive this
  12. 01:03year. Now, I'm not here to talk down on you. I've quit 10 times as many goals than I've set. Many of you have probably
  13. 01:09noticed that. I mean, my face is online. The book that I said I was writing, I'm not writing it anymore. And I think that
  14. 01:16should be the case for most people. I think you should quit more goals than you set because how else are you going to narrow in on the correct goals, but
  15. 01:23the fact that people try to change their life and utterly fail almost every time
  16. 01:28still holds true and that's a problem. So much so that the gym becomes extremely crowded during January and
  17. 01:35then by February it's all cleared out. It's a meme. Now, as much as I think that New Year's resolutions are stupid,
  18. 01:41I feel like many of you also think that they're stupid. I always think that it's wise to reflect on your life and change
  19. 01:46direction and do something that you've always wanted to do and what better time to do it than now. The other thing here
  20. 01:52is that human nature is kind of a And the worst feeling is when you make a promise to yourself and then you end up
  21. 01:58breaking it, especially if it's over and over again because you start to feel helpless. And if you don't know what
  22. 02:03you're doing, you may continue that cycle for years on end, always wanting to change but never being able to. So
  23. 02:10whether you want to start the business, transform your body, or take the risk toward a meaningful life without
  24. 02:16quitting after two weeks, I want to share seven of probably the most impactful ideas that I've ever shared
  25. 02:23that you probably haven't heard before on behavior change, psychology, and productivity so you can do just that in
  26. 02:292026. Now, this is going to be comprehensive. This is not going to be one of those videos that you just watch
  27. 02:35and forget about. I hope you treat it like that. This is something you will want to save to your watch later, to
  28. 02:40bookmark on your phone, to take notes on, and you will have to set aside time to think about it. We're going to go
  29. 02:46over six ideas. And then in the seventh quote unquote idea, it's actually a protocol. And what we're going to do is
  30. 02:52we're going to dig very deep into your psyche. And if you take this seriously, you're going to get quite emotional, and
  31. 02:58it will take about a full day to complete. If you do this, your life will change in one day. Now, all I ask is
  32. 03:05that you dedicate your full attention to this. I know that you're used to just scrolling on social media and watching
  33. 03:10and binge watching YouTube videos, but it's rare that you come across one video that just has the potential to change
  34. 03:16everything. And I hope that this video acts as that for you. Let's begin. The first idea is that you aren't where you

  35. I – You aren’t where you want to be because you aren’t the person who would be there

  36. 03:23want to be because you aren't the person who would be there. Now when it comes to New Year's resolutions, people tend to
  37. 03:29focus on one out of the two things that are required for change and success. So
  38. 03:35the first is changing your actions to make progress toward the goal. This is the least important thing and what most
  39. 03:41people do. It is second order. And the second thing is changing who you are so that your behavior naturally follows.
  40. 03:48This is the most important thing. This is first order. Most people set surface level goals, hype themselves up to
  41. 03:54remain disciplined for the first few weeks, then go back to their old ways without much struggle because they were trying to build a great life on a
  42. 04:01rotting foundation. So, if this doesn't make sense, let's run through a quick example. I want you to think about
  43. 04:06somebody successful. It could be a founder, a CEO, a bodybuilder with a
  44. 04:11incredible physique on Instagram, or just a charismatic dude who can walk into a group and start chatting everyone
  45. 04:18up like it's just second nature to them. Now, I want you to really think about this because this this has to click for
  46. 04:23you in order for you to understand that behavior change is changing who you are. Do you think the bodybuilder has to
  47. 04:30grind to eat healthy? Do they have to grind like everyone tells you you need to do? Oh, you need to grind, you need
  48. 04:37to struggle, you need to suffer in order to eat healthy. Does the CEO or the founder have to discipline themselves to
  49. 04:44show up and lead the team? This is actually something my co-founder Matt and I were talking about earlier about
  50. 04:49how in our past nine-to-five jobs, we were just the worst employees ever. And so, when we're going about hiring that's
  51. 04:56constantly on our mind, what if we hire someone who just isn't as passionate about what we do as we are? Because to
  52. 05:02us, we just wake up and do the thing to the employee who may not be a fit. They're going to completely sabotage our
  53. 05:08business. They're not going to care. They're going to get their work done late. They're not going to listen. And no matter how much I motivate them as a
  54. 05:15founder or I train them to do the thing or incentivize them, that type of person
  55. 05:21just isn't a fit and they're not going to do what they need to do. It's because their identity doesn't match the
  56. 05:27behavior required for our business. Now, to you on the surface, it may seem like
  57. 05:33the bodybuilder has to grind to eat healthy, or they're so disciplined, or the runner has to discipline themselves
  58. 05:40to go run a marathon, or the CEO has to discipline themselves to show up and work. But the truth is, they can't see
  59. 05:47themselves living any other way. The bodybuilder has to grind to eat
  60. 05:53unhealthy. The CEO has to grind and force themselves to sleep in past their
  61. 05:58alarm clock or to take it easy at night and watch Netflix. And when they do sleep past their alarm clock or they do
  62. 06:04feel like they're unproductive, they hate every second of it. Just like you hate every second of working towards
  63. 06:11your goal because you don't have the right identity to match the behavior required to achieve that goal. And to
  64. 06:18some people, my own lifestyle seems pretty extreme or pretty disciplined. Like when I got on a podcast this past
  65. 06:25year and they're like, "You seem like the most disciplined person ever." And I'm just like, I mean, not really. It's
  66. 06:31not I don't know. To me, it's just natural. And I don't say that to contrast it or compare it to anybody
  67. 06:37else's lifestyle. I'm not saying my lifestyle is better. I'm just saying I simply enjoy living this way. Like when
  68. 06:44my mom tells me that I need to take a break or go out or let loose a bit, I have to like hold my tongue because I
  69. 06:50don't want to be rude or dismissive because through my mind I'm just I'm just thinking if I weren't having fun,
  70. 06:57why would I be doing what I'm doing? And that's the major mismatch is people can't answer that. They're not doing the
  71. 07:03thing that's fun. They're doing what society told them they should do. Now, do not take this next sentence lightly
  72. 07:10because this ties it all together. If you want a specific outcome in life, you must have the lifestyle that creates
  73. 07:16that outcome long before you reach it. So, if someone says they want to lose 30 lbs of fat, I often don't believe them.
  74. 07:24Not because I don't think they're a person that's incapable of it, but because there's just too many times when
  75. 07:29that same person says that they can't wait to get back to the life they used
  76. 07:35to live. Oh, I can't wait until I can eat this again. I can't wait until I don't have to do cardio again. And
  77. 07:41that's the thing. I hate to break it to you, but if you don't adopt the lifestyle that led to you losing weight
  78. 07:48for life and find a reason with a higher gravitational pull than the one tying
  79. 07:53you to your previous ways, then you will go back straight to where you started and you can unhappily say that you
  80. 08:00wasted the only resource that you have, which is time. When you truly change
  81. 08:05yourself, all of your habits that don't move the needle toward your goal become disgusting because you have a deep and
  82. 08:11profound awareness of what kind of life those actions compound into. You are okay with your current standards because
  83. 08:17you are not fully aware of what they are or what they lead to. And we're going to discuss how to uncover that. But you
  84. 08:24need this awareness first. You need to understand your mind. So that leads to point number two, which is you aren't

  85. II – You aren’t where you want to be because you don’t want to be there

  86. 08:30where you want to be because you don't actually want to be there. To start this off with a quote from Alfred Adler,
  87. 08:37trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust
  88. 08:42movement. So if you want to change who you are, you must understand how the mind works. That way you can start to
  89. 08:48reprogram it. The first step to understanding the mind is to understand that all behavior is goal oriented. When
  90. 08:54you think about it, this is kind of obvious, but when we dig into it, most people don't want to hear it. You take a
  91. 09:00step forward with your foot because you want to reach a certain location. That's a goal. You scratch your nose because
  92. 09:05you want to get rid of the itch. That's a goal. Those are very surface level kind of meaningless goals. And those
  93. 09:10ones are obvious as well, but there are greater unconscious goals that are creating the sub goals that you're
  94. 09:17working to at all times. You may not even realize that sitting down on the couch to relax or scroll doom scrolling
  95. 09:23on your phone came from a bigger goal that was injected into your mind either
  96. 09:29at birth during conditioning or by society by doing something they want you to do or just by your own goal of
  97. 09:35protection or safety or pleasure or feeling good that you're just not aware of and you don't think anything of it
  98. 09:42because it's just natural. It's an unconscious process. You do it like you breathe. You don't even notice it. And
  99. 09:47on an even more unconscious and complex level, we often pursue goals without knowing it that harm us. But we tend to
  100. 09:54justify our actions in a way that is socially acceptable or makes us not feel
  101. 10:00like a loser. As an example, if you can't stop procrastinating on your work, you may justify it with the fact that
  102. 10:05you lack discipline, but in reality, you're attempting to achieve a goal like you always are. In this case, that goal
  103. 10:12could be to protect yourself from the judgment that comes from finishing and sharing your work. So, it's not that you
  104. 10:18lack discipline. It's that you're afraid of achieving one goal, so you justify it
  105. 10:24by making not achieving that goal your goal. Another prime example is that if you say you want to quit a dead-end job,
  106. 10:31but you stay in it, you may start to think that you just don't have enough courage or you're not a risktaker. But
  107. 10:38the truth is is that you're pursuing the goal of safety and predictability and an excuse not to look like a failure in
  108. 10:45front of everyone you told that you want to quit your job. So the lesson here with point number two is that real
  109. 10:50change requires changing your goals. But I don't mean setting some surface level goal because the act of doing that
  110. 10:56serves an unconscious goal that is actually harming you. That's been ran through enough in the productivity
  111. 11:02space. I mean changing your point of view because that's what a goal is. A goal is a projection into the future
  112. 11:08that acts as a lens of perception which allows you to notice information, ideas, and resources that aid in you achieving
  113. 11:15that goal. If that didn't make any sense, it's important. But if that didn't make any sense, that's what point

  114. III – You aren’t where you want to be because you’re afraid to be there

  115. 11:20number three is for, which is you aren't where you want to be because you're afraid to be there. So, let's start with
  116. 11:26another quote from Maxwell Maltz. The important thing for you to remember is that it does not matter in the least how
  117. 11:32you got the idea or where it came from. You may never have been formally hypnotized. But if you have accepted an
  118. 11:38idea from yourself, your teachers, your parents, friends, advertisements from any other source, and further, if you
  119. 11:44are firmly convinced that idea is true, it has the same power over you as the hypnotist words have over a hypnotized
  120. 11:50subject. So that's compelling. And what I'm about to share with you is even more compelling because I've condensed just
  121. 11:57how you become who you are into this series of steps. Now these are not like
  122. 12:02what happen every time but this is just how identity is shaped and formed which
  123. 12:07shapes your action. So if you understand this cuz we're reverse engineering it right now then we can start to put the
  124. 12:13pieces together to okay how do we change our identity so that our behavior
  125. 12:18naturally follows going into 2026 or any other year. So this is the anatomy of
  126. 12:24identity. First you want to achieve a goal. Then you perceive reality through the lens of that goal. Meaning you only
  127. 12:30notice important information and ideas that allow you to achieve that goal. This is the learning process. This is
  128. 12:36how you learn things. Then fourth, you act toward that goal and receive feedback that you're progressing toward
  129. 12:42it. Fifth, you repeat that behavior until it becomes automatic and unconscious. This is conditioning.
  130. 12:48Sixth, that behavior becomes a part of who you think you are. I am the type of person who dot dot dot. Seventh, you
  131. 12:55defend your identity to maintain psychological consistency. We'll talk about that more. And eighth, your
  132. 13:01identity shapes new goals, restarting the cycle. And if that identity is disadvantageous toward a good life, this
  133. 13:08gets very bad very quick. Now, the unfortunate reality is that you have to break this cycle between step six and
  134. 13:14step seven because you've already gone through this many times in your life. And it started when you were first born,
  135. 13:20when you didn't even have any control over your mind. Because when you're a kid, you have the goal of survival.
  136. 13:26That's literally your goal is I'm this babbling blob of flesh coming out into
  137. 13:31the world. I don't know how to speak. I don't know anything. I don't know how to survive. And it's just like, oh my gosh, the only instinct is like, I need to
  138. 13:39live. That's not even a conscious instinct. That's just the instinct that you're born with. And because of this,
  139. 13:44you are dependent on your parents to teach you how to survive. Because when we think about it, maybe you don't even
  140. 13:50have that instinct of survival, but other people around you do. Like that's just the natural order of things is you
  141. 13:55have to survive. And so the thing there is that you had to conform. You had to conform to what your parents believe,
  142. 14:02what your parents taught you. And your parents, unless they broke the pattern themselves, they probably have the same
  143. 14:08conditioning or beliefs or ideas or values as their culture or their parents or their parents' parents or the
  144. 14:15industrial age or all of these goals that may not serve you and what you
  145. 14:20actually want. And since the way most people teach is through reward and punishment, if you don't conform to
  146. 14:28their values and goals, if you don't become their child mentally, then they may kick you out. They may punish you.
  147. 14:34Well, they will punish you. They're going to say, "No, that's not the way you do things. You do things this way." And you don't know any better as a kid.
  148. 14:40So, you listen. And the thing here is that you don't ever actually think for
  149. 14:46yourself. You don't have a single original thought unless you can see through this. If you have never questioned this, then you are not an
  150. 14:52independent thinker. And nobody, I would argue, is a completely independent thinker. There's degrees. There's a
  151. 14:58spectrum. Now, to take this a layer deeper, because we're going very deep here, hopefully once you fulfill your
  152. 15:04physical survival needs, which is pretty easy to do, at least in today's world, it happens pretty quick. Then you start
  153. 15:10to survive on the conceptual or ideological level. You may not try to protect or reproduce your body anymore,
  154. 15:17but your mind is different. You still have that instinct. It just transcends to a new level. You don't try to
  155. 15:23reproduce your genes, although you do. You try to reproduce memes or information or beliefs or ideas or
  156. 15:29values. You can see this everywhere on the internet. We're in this mental or spiritual war of ideas because when your
  157. 15:36body feels threatened, you go into fight or flight. When your identity or your mental body, so to say, feels
  158. 15:43threatened, you do the same thing. If you are heavily identified with something like a political ideology by
  159. 15:48the process we just talked about because you probably adopted your political ideology from your parents or another
  160. 15:55group that you found online and even if you rejected your parents beliefs you fell into another set of beliefs when
  161. 16:00you were young that shaped your ideas and if that crystallizes that does very bad things. You can no longer think
  162. 16:07clearly or nuanced or see the big picture. And when someone challenges those beliefs you will feel threatened.
  163. 16:14You will feel that stress response. You feel emotionally like you were slapped in the face. And since most people don't
  164. 16:20analyze their emotions for truth, you tend to get stuck in echo chambers and just double down on your beliefs. The
  165. 16:27same thing happens if you're raised in a religious household. If those ideas actually stick with you, then you're
  166. 16:32going to fight and lash out. Maybe not extremely or physically, but in defense
  167. 16:38at people who are challenging you. I grew up LDS. I grew up Mormon. I saw
  168. 16:43this firsthand every single day and it just didn't make sense to me. When you ask a question to a leader of the
  169. 16:49church, they just like go through this regurgitated script of things that
  170. 16:54didn't make sense to me. And now that's nothing against that religion or any religion. I actually now enjoy viewing
  171. 17:01different perspectives online. I listen to a lot of Christian content. I listen to a lot of atheist content. I'm not
  172. 17:06identified with either side because that prevents me from seeing truth. And lastly, this same thing happens not for
  173. 17:12politics or religion, but for everything. For your job. Do you identify as a lawyer? Do you identify as
  174. 17:18a gamer? Do you identify as someone who would not take the actions to the life
  175. 17:24that you want to live? Now, point number four, the life you want lies within a specific level of mind because the mind

  176. IV – The life you want lies within a specific level of mind

  177. 17:31evolves through predictable stages over time. We've talked about this many times. People love this subject. It's a freaking mind-blowing subject. But when
  178. 17:37you're born, you're like this little survival sponge that just soaks up as many beliefs as it can to survive so
  179. 17:43that you can feel safe and secure. And if you don't be careful, you can easily, very easily, get trapped in one of these
  180. 17:50stages. And this has been documented thoroughly through models like Maslo's hierarchy of needs or Suzanne Cook
  181. 17:56Reer's nine stages of ego development or uh Christopher Cowan and Don Beck's spiral dynamics. These have each built
  182. 18:03on top of each other and evolved and become more comprehensive and applied to multiple domains. And while it's not
  183. 18:08completely like pinpoint accurate all of the time, it's a big picture. It's like
  184. 18:13orienting generalizations so we can at least see the patterns and identify them. And since I've talked about this
  185. 18:19so much, I've talked about it in my human 3.0 newsletter, which is more like a like a cornerstone article that I
  186. 18:26think everyone should read. I'll link to that in the description. It's pretty long, but it's thorough. If you if you want to understand how to achieve
  187. 18:33anything in your life, I think I dissected it quite well there. But let's go over the 8020 of this just so you get
  188. 18:38a refresher or you understand what we're talking about so we can move on. If you've already heard this, just
  189. 18:44understand that repetition is important for important things. So stage one of development is the impulsive stage where
  190. 18:50there's no separation between impulse and action. It's black and white thinking. As an example, a toddler hits
  191. 18:55when angry because the feeling and the behavior are the same thing. Stage two is self-protective, where the world is
  192. 19:01dangerous and you learn to look out for yourself, like how a kid learns to hide report cards, lie about chores, and
  193. 19:07figure out what adults want to hear. Stage three is conformist, where you are your group and its rules feel like
  194. 19:13reality itself, which is like someone who genuinely cannot fathom why anyone would vote differently than their family
  195. 19:19or group or would have a different religion. Stage four is self-aware, where you notice you have an inner life
  196. 19:25that doesn't match the exterior. So, it's like sitting in church and realizing you're not sure. You believe what everyone around you seems to
  197. 19:31believe, but not knowing what to do with that feeling yet. That is me in my past. Stage five is conscientious, where you
  198. 19:38build your own system of principles and hold yourself accountable to them. So, like leaving your family's religion
  199. 19:43after careful study and adopting a personal philosophy you can defend, or building a career plan with clear
  200. 19:49milestones because you believe the right efforts yield the right results. Stage six is the individualist stage where you
  201. 19:54see that your principles were shaped by context and start holding them more loosely. As an example, realizing your
  202. 20:00political views have more to do with where you grew up than objective truth or noticing that your ambitious career
  203. 20:06goals were really about earning your father's approval. Stage seven is the strategist stage where you work with
  204. 20:11systems while aware of your own involvement in them. So it's like leading an organization while actively questioning your own blind spots or
  205. 20:18engaging in politics knowing your perspective is partial and shaped by bias you can't fully see. Stage eight is
  206. 20:24construct aare where you see all frameworks including your identity as useful fictions. So it's like holding
  207. 20:29your spiritual beliefs metaphorically rather than literally. It's knowing that the map is not the territory or watching
  208. 20:35yourself play the role of founder or thought leader with a kind of gentle amusement. I've done this a few times. I
  209. 20:41don't know if I'm fully construct aware because with these they're like tools, right? They're like lenses. If you're
  210. 20:46stressed, you're going to regress into a more conformous stage or more survival stage, so to say, because you're going
  211. 20:52to feel more threatened. But I think that people mostly operate within like
  212. 20:5880% of their life within a specific level. And that level slowly increases
  213. 21:03over time with certain aspects or domains of their life branching into other levels. And stage nine is the
  214. 21:10unitive stage where separation between self and life dissolves. As an example, work, rest, and play feel like the same
  215. 21:16thing. There's no one left who needs to become something. Just presence responding to what arises. Now, the
  216. 21:22spiritual people out there will hear this and praise the ninth unit of stage.
  217. 21:28But we have to understand that all of these are like tools in the toolbox. They're lenses of perception. They're
  218. 21:33not necessarily better than one another, but they're larger, higher, more inclusive than one another. They're more
  219. 21:39complex. Sometimes the highest stage being at a unitive stage doesn't allow you to solve a certain problem or make
  220. 21:46progress in a certain area of your life. But the thing about the higher stages is that you have all of the lower stages as
  221. 21:52a tool in your tool belt so that you can tap into them or pull them out when you need them from a higher perspective.
  222. 21:58Now, for most people watching this, I would assume you're between levels four and eight mostly. So, those who are
  223. 22:04closer to eight and watching this are doing so as like a refresher or just to pass the time. But those who are closer
  224. 22:10to four, you may not know what you want out of life. You feel like you're meant for more, but you can't make sense of
  225. 22:15everything yet. But that's a good thing because there is a pattern. There is a way to move through these stages and get

  226. V – Intelligence is the ability to get what you want out of life

  227. 22:22closer to the life that you want. So that leads to point number five, which is that intelligence is the ability to
  228. 22:28get what you want out of life. And we'll start with this great quote. The only real test of intelligence is if you get
  229. 22:35what you want out of life. That's the classic viral quote from Naval. Now, there is a formula to success. One
  230. 22:42ingredient is agency, which we just talked about in the last video. One ingredient is opportunity, which many
  231. 22:48people like to mistake as privilege because they lack the other ingredients. And the last ingredient is intelligence.
  232. 22:54So if you have high agency but low opportunity, it doesn't matter how likely you are to act toward a goal
  233. 23:00because it isn't a goal that will bear much fruit. If you have opportunity and agency but low intelligence, then you
  234. 23:07will never be fully able to benefit from that opportunity. Now, we've talked about agency, but in terms of
  235. 23:12opportunity, I can't really control your physical location. I can tell you to move, but that's a big ask. That's up to
  236. 23:17you. But if you don't see the opportunity in the digital world or on
  237. 23:22the internet that's right in front of you, I don't know what to tell you. If if you want to realize what that is, go
  238. 23:28watch any of my other videos. So with that said, in this video, I want to focus on what intelligence is in the
  239. 23:34context of those two other gradients and of the context of this video. Cybernetics comes from the Greek word
  240. 23:41kuberneticos, which means to steer or good at steering. It's also known as the
  241. 23:46art of getting what you want. That's when we apply it as like a a frame for viewing the world as a human. For a
  242. 23:52machine, it's just an intelligent system that course corrects toward a goal. It's like AI. It actually is the original
  243. 23:59word for AI, but somebody I forget who didn't like the word cybernetics, so they changed it to artificial
  244. 24:05intelligence. So, if Nal's definition of intelligence is to get what you want out of life, then cybernetics or
  245. 24:12understanding it helps you do it that much faster. So what cybernetics illustrates is the properties of an
  246. 24:18intelligent system which is to have a goal, act toward the goal, sense where you are, compare it to the goal, and act
  247. 24:25again based on feedback. It's trial and error. It's experimentation. It's a scientific process. But there's a key
  248. 24:31point here that most people miss. You can judge intelligence based on the systems ability to iterate and persist
  249. 24:38with trial and error. A ship blown off course that corrects towards its destination. a thermostat sensing a
  250. 24:44change in heat and turning on the pancreas in your body excreting insulin after blood glucose spikes. So, what
  251. 24:50does this have to do with getting what you want out of life? Everything acting, sensing, comparing, and understanding
  252. 24:55the system from a meta perspective is fundamental to high intelligence. High intelligence is the ability to iterate,
  253. 25:02persist, and understand the big picture. The mark of low intelligence is the inability to learn from your mistakes.
  254. 25:08Low intelligence people get stuck on problems rather than solving them. They hit a roadblock and quit. Like a writer
  255. 25:14who fails to build a readership and quits because they lack the ability to try new things, experiment, and figure
  256. 25:20out a process that works for them. To think that there isn't an effective process you can create is verifiably
  257. 25:26false. No matter your limiting beliefs, hence being low intelligence. We're actually going to talk about why artists
  258. 25:32hate AI so much in a future video. I've been planning that one and doing a lot of research on that one. And don't get
  259. 25:38your panties all in a bunch just yet if you're an artist. But usually it from what I've seen it's just pointing to
  260. 25:45this definition of low intelligence. Now high intelligence is realizing that any problem can be solved on a large enough
  261. 25:51time scale. The reality is that you can achieve any goal you set your mind to. This isn't something that can be
  262. 25:57disproven within reason. Intelligence is realizing that there is a series of
  263. 26:03choices you can make which lead to achieving the goal you want. You understand that ideas are hierarchical
  264. 26:09and that you can't go from papyrus to Google Docs in one leap. Even if the goal is impossible right now, you simply
  265. 26:16don't have the resources which may be invented over the next few years to achieve that thing. So what I'm saying
  266. 26:22is most of your excuses for not achieving a goal is a sign of low intelligence. I'm sorry because you have
  267. 26:28more than enough resources. You can buy freaking chat GPT for $20, even though I don't like chat GP. You can buy Claude
  268. 26:34for $20. Now when I talk about goals, this is what I'm talking about. I'm speaking from the lens of teiology or
  269. 26:41the Greek cosmos with a K, which is that everything serves a purpose. That everything is a part of a greater whole.
  270. 26:48Goals determine how you see the world. Goals determine what you consider success or failure. You can try to enjoy
  271. 26:54the journey or enjoy the process, but if you pursue the wrong goal, you will not enjoy it. Your mind is the operating
  272. 27:00system for reality. That system is composed of goals. For most people, those goals are assigned to them,

  273. VI – How to launch into a completely new life (in 1 day)

  274. 27:06programmed like lines of code in your psyche. Go to school, get a job, get offended, play victim, retire at 65, a
  275. 27:13known path that doesn't work. So to become intelligent, you must reject the known path, dive into the unknown, set
  276. 27:19new, higher goals to expand your mind, embrace the chaos, and allow for more growth. Study the generalized principles
  277. 27:25of nature, and become a deep generalist. That leads us into point number six
  278. 27:31perfectly, which is how to launch into a completely new life in one day. Now, I wrote this tweet a few years ago and it
  279. 27:37just went it popped off. I wasn't expecting so many people to actually resonate with this. And it was the best
  280. 27:44periods of my life always came after a period of getting absolutely fed up with the lack of progress I was making. So,
  281. 27:50how do you dig into your mind? How do you become aware of your conditioning? How do you reach profound insights and
  282. 27:56truths that change the trajectory of your life? The answer is through the simple but often painful act of
  283. 28:02questioning, which is something that so few people do. And you can tell by how they speak or give their thoughts on a
  284. 28:07specific topic. It's like you're talking to a TV or the news or the most popular social media posts. Questioning is
  285. 28:14thinking, and very few people do it. So, I want to give you a comprehensive protocol that you can use to reset your
  286. 28:21life every year or whenever you feel like you need to. And this protocol consists of questions which will tie
  287. 28:27together into the form of a a list of things that you can just focus on. Now, this will require a full day to
  288. 28:34complete. It's a full day. I need you to take your time and actually do this. I'm asking you one day to change your entire
  289. 28:40life. You will need a pen, a paper, and an open mind. Now when I observe the patterns in people who successfully flip
  290. 28:47their identity, it happens rather quick after this buildup of tension or disease. Now specifically I've noticed
  291. 28:54three phases that most people go through. So you need to go through these phases as well. Phase one is dissonance
  292. 29:00where they feel like they don't belong in their current life and become sufficiently fed up with their lack of progress. Phase two is uncertainty. So
  293. 29:07they don't know what comes next. So they either experiment or get lost and feel worse. And phase three is discovery
  294. 29:12where they discover what they want to pursue and make six years of progress in six months. Now, I say that before going
  295. 29:18into the questions because you need to understand like how it feels, how to know, you need the feedback as to
  296. 29:24whether or not what you're doing is correct. Because most of the time that feedback, those three phases aren't comfortable. You're not immediately just
  297. 29:31going to be like, "Oh, yes. Oh, I feel so hyped and so motivated right now." You're going to feel the opposite. And
  298. 29:36that's the good sign. That's also a sign not to try to mask that up by scrolling on your phone or getting that next quick
  299. 29:43hit of dopamine. So, part one of this protocol happens in the morning. You're going to do this first thing. And this
  300. 29:48is for psychological excavation where we're going to uncover what our vision for the future is and our anti-vision
  301. 29:54for the future is to create a frame that we can operate within. Because that's the thing. First, in order to change, we
  302. 30:00need to create a new frame or lens of perception or who our identity is going to be that we can like put on as this
  303. 30:08shell. We can shed our old shell like a crab or a lobster, get into a new one, and then grow into it until that one
  304. 30:15becomes too tight. And then you reach that point of distance like this doesn't feel right. I'm not supposed to be at
  305. 30:20this point in life. I need to get out of my shell and find a new one or create a new one. So, that's what we're doing.
  306. 30:26Now, I'm going to go through these questions. I suggest that you write them down, screenshot them, do whatever you
  307. 30:31can so that you have them ready tomorrow morning when you actually do this. Or just come back to this video and skip to
  308. 30:36this point and create a calendar event or reminder so that you actually do this. And I'm just going to run through
  309. 30:42these questions, so pay attention. What is the dull and persistent dissatisfaction you've learned to live
  310. 30:47with? Not the deep suffering, but what you've learned to tolerate? What do you complain about repeatedly, but never
  311. 30:53actually change? Write down three complaints you voiced most often this past year. For each complaint, what
  312. 30:59would someone who watched your behavior, not your words, conclude that you actually want? What truth about your
  313. 31:05current life would be unbearable to admit to someone you deeply respect? So, those questions are meant to make you
  314. 31:10aware of the pain in your current life. So, now we need to turn those into what I call an anti- vision, which is a
  315. 31:17brutal awareness of the life that you do not want to live. That way, you can use that negative energy when you need it to
  316. 31:24aim in a positive direction. So, these are the questions to come up with your anti- vision. If absolutely nothing
  317. 31:30changes for the next 5 years, describe an average Tuesday. Where do you wake up? What does your body feel like?
  318. 31:36What's the first thing you think about? Who's around you? What do you do between 9:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.? How do you feel
  319. 31:41at 10 p.m.? Now, do the same thing, but for 10 years? What have you missed? What opportunities close? Who gave up on you?
  320. 31:48What do people say about you when you're not in the room? You're at the end of your life. You live the safe version.
  321. 31:54You never broke the pattern. What was the cost? What did you never let yourself feel, try, or become? Who in
  322. 32:00your life is already living the future you just described? Someone 5, 10, 20 years ahead of you on the same
  323. 32:06trajectory? What do you feel when you think about becoming them? What identity would you have to give up to actually
  324. 32:12change? What would it cost you socially to no longer be that person? What is the most embarrassing reason you haven't
  325. 32:18changed? The one that makes you sound weak, scared, or lazy rather than reasonable. If your current behavior is
  326. 32:24a form of self-p protection, what exactly are you protecting and what is the protection costing you? Now, if you
  327. 32:29answer those truthfully and if you're in the right chapter of your life, because if you're just at the beginning of your
  328. 32:36own book, but this helps you reach the climax, you still have some of a journey to go on. This may not completely apply
  329. 32:43to you just yet. But if it does, then you will feel this deep sense of disgust or disease or just you don't feel right.
  330. 32:51You have to do something. So now we need to orient that energy in a positive direction. We need to create a minimum
  331. 32:57viable vision because a vision is like a product. Your product doesn't start out the best. It starts out unclear and with
  332. 33:04time and practice and experience it gets better and more polished and more people like the product. So there's three
  333. 33:10questions for your vision. Forget practicality for a minute. If you could snap your fingers and be living a
  334. 33:16completely different life in 3 years, not what's realistic, but what you actually want. What does an average
  335. 33:22Tuesday look like? And use the same level of detail as question five from before. What would you have to believe
  336. 33:28about yourself for that life to feel natural rather than forced? So, write the identity statement. I am the type of
  337. 33:34person who dot dot dot. What is the one thing you would do this week if you're already that person? So, you're going to
  338. 33:40answer all of those questions first thing tomorrow. That leads into part two, which you're going to do throughout
  339. 33:46the day. And this is going to interrupt autopilot. It's going to interrupt how you're currently unconsciously living
  340. 33:52because those journaling exercises are cute, but we want real change. And frankly, that's not going to happen
  341. 33:57unless you break the current unconscious patterns that are keeping you the same. So throughout the day, I want you to
  342. 34:03contemplate on everything that you wrote in part one. You should just think about it, right? Question. Let questions
  343. 34:09trigger questions and thoughts trigger thoughts. It's like a a meditation on a mantra. You're you're thinking about
  344. 34:15your vision and anti-vision and you're just letting ideas spring to mind. You're not getting distracted by today's
  345. 34:21tasks or scrolling on your phone or whatever it may be. And beyond that, I don't want you to forget to contemplate.
  346. 34:27So, what you're going to do right now is you're going to go on your phone or on your computer and you're and you're
  347. 34:32going to create reminders or calendar events with these specific questions
  348. 34:38listed inside the reminder or calendar event. At 11:00 a.m., what am I avoiding right now by doing what I'm doing? At
  349. 34:441:30 p.m., if someone filmed the last 2 hours, what would they conclude I want
  350. 34:49from my life? At 3 or 3:15 p.m., am I moving toward the life I hate or the
  351. 34:55life I want? At 5:00 p.m., what's the most important thing I'm pretending isn't important? At 7:30 p.m., what did
  352. 35:02I do today out of identity protection rather than genuine desire? A hint here, it's most of the things that you do. at
  353. 35:089:00 p.m. when did I feel most alive today and when did I feel most dead? Now, part three you're going to do in
  354. 35:15the evening. This is for synthesizing all of the insights that you got throughout the day. And this is how you
  355. 35:20enter a season of progress tomorrow or the next day. So, if you follow that process, then I would be pretty
  356. 35:26surprised if you don't have at least one profound life-changing insight that you came to. So now we need to make those
  357. 35:33known, integrate them into who we are, and act on them to begin solidifying a
  358. 35:39new level of mind or a new stage of development. So here's the questions that you journal on in the evening after
  359. 35:45today. What feels most true about why you've been stuck? What is the actual enemy? Name it clearly. It's not
  360. 35:51circumstances. It's not other people. It's the internal pattern or belief that has been running the show. Write a
  361. 35:57single sentence that captures what you refuse to let your life become. This is your anti-vision compressed. It should
  362. 36:03make you feel something when you read it. Write a single sentence that captures what you're building toward knowing it will evolve. This is your
  363. 36:09vision MVP. Now, lastly, we need to create goals. We need to make this more practical. We have all the big picture
  364. 36:16motivational intrinsic motivation stuff. But how do we actually act? And again, these aren't goals that you set for the
  365. 36:22sake of achievement. These are lenses, macro and micro lenses that you can put on at a certain time to experience the
  366. 36:30mind of that point of view and to notice the right information and to do the right actions. When you're really narrowed in on the daily task, then you
  367. 36:37don't really think about anything else. You just do the task. But when you're really zoomed out to the level of your vision, then you think about so much.
  368. 36:43You have this unbounded uh creativity. So, three questions here. Your one-year goal or lens. What would have to be true
  369. 36:50in one year for you to know you've broken the old pattern? One concrete thing. Your one-mon goal or lens. What
  370. 36:57would have to be true in one month for the one-year lens to remain possible? Now, your daily goal or lens. What are
  371. 37:03two to three actions you can time block tomorrow that the person you're becoming would simply do? Now, that was a lot. I
  372. 37:10hope that was helpful, but we have one last piece to lock it all in. Stick with me here. So, point number seven is turn

  373. VII – Turn Your Life Into A Video Game

  374. 37:16your life into a video game. We'll start this with a quote from Mihi Chicks Mihi. The optimal state of inner experience is
  375. 37:23one in which there is order in consciousness. This happens when psychic energy or attention is invested in
  376. 37:29realistic goals and when skills match the opportunities for action. The pursuit of a goal brings order and
  377. 37:35awareness because a person must concentrate attention on the task at hand and momentarily forget everything
  378. 37:40else. So, you now have all of the components that lead to a good life. But now it may be helpful to organize all of
  379. 37:46those components into a coherent plan. So now you're going to pull out a new piece of paper and you're going to write
  380. 37:51down these six things. Anti-vision. What is the bane of my existence or the life I never want to experience again?
  381. 37:58Vision. What is the ideal life that I think I want and can improve as I work toward it? One-year goal. What will my
  382. 38:04life look like in one year time and is that closer to the life I want? One month project. What do I need to learn?
  383. 38:11What skills do I need to acquire? What can I build that will move me closer to the one-year goal? Daily levers. What
  384. 38:17are the priority needlemoving tasks that bring my project closer to completion? Constraints. What am I not willing to
  385. 38:23sacrifice to achieve my vision from the ground up? Now, why is this so powerful? Why is are those six things so powerful?
  386. 38:29Because it to most people it just sounds like more self-help, productivity mumbo jumbo. Because those components
  387. 38:35literally create your own world. And if you are meant to pursue that hierarchy of goals at this stage in your life, you
  388. 38:41will have no other option but to become obsessed. You will feel the pull to something greater. You will not see
  389. 38:47anything else as an option. In essence, you turn your life into a video game because games are the poster child for
  390. 38:53obsession, enjoyment, and flow states. They have all the components that lead to focus and clarity. So, if we reverse
  391. 38:59engineer what those components are, we can live in a state of deeper enjoyment, less distractions, and more success.
  392. 39:05Your vision is how you win, at least until the game evolves. Your anti- vision is what's at stake. What happens
  393. 39:12if you lose or give up? Your one-year goal is the mission. This is your sole priority in life. Your one-mon project
  394. 39:18is the boss fight, how you gain XP and acquire loot. Your daily levers are the quests, the daily process that unlocks
  395. 39:25new opportunities. Your constraints are the rules, the limitations that encourage creativity. So you can think
  396. 39:30of all of these as just this concentric set of circles, like a force field that guards your mind from distractions and
  397. 39:36shiny objects. The more you play the game, right, because this isn't going to be super potent the first time around,
  398. 39:43the more you invest energy into this, into building or adopting this frame, the stronger the force field becomes.
  399. 39:48And soon enough, it becomes who you are. And you wouldn't have it any other way. Thank you for watching. If you enjoyed
  400. 39:54this video, please subscribe to my newsletter where I send out long letters on behavior change, psychology,
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  402. 40:07for watching. I really hope it was impactful to a good 2026. Bye.
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