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How to Grieve the Loss of a Pet | Cesar Millan & Dr. Andrew Huberman

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Cesar Millan and Dr. Andrew Huberman discuss the emotional and psychological bond between humans and dogs, focusing on how to navigate a pet's end-of-life wi...

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  1. Celebrating A Dog's Life

  2. 00:00What is your relationship to the concept
  3. 00:01of death as it relates to to dogs? And
  4. 00:05the question is very specific here. Do
  5. 00:07people say they know, they'll let you
  6. 00:09know?
  7. 00:10Yeah.
  8. 00:11The question I want to know is, is it
  9. 00:14okay to show your dog sadness or does it
  10. 00:16make the dog that's dying more anxious?
  11. 00:19With my kids, because I have two kids
  12. 00:20and you know, obviously we have a pack
  13. 00:22of dogs. They have experienced dogs
  14. 00:24passing. We always make a celebration. I
  15. 00:27always bring them to their favorite
  16. 00:28place. So I I definitely bring more the
  17. 00:31energy of happiness and I I ask my kids
  18. 00:34if you're going to cry or whatever just
  19. 00:36do it away from them otherwise you hold
  20. 00:38them [clears throat]
  21. 00:39right so I don't I want them to go back
  22. 00:41and that's why it's so good to think to
  23. 00:43believe in God because they're going
  24. 00:44back to the source so they're way better
  25. 00:47with him than with you know here on
  26. 00:49earth I did my homework right too also
  27. 00:51so I feel really good that I gave the
  28. 00:54best life
  29. 00:56uh for that particular dog right u Um
  30. 00:59and so when it's time to go they tell
  31. 01:01you they tell you they can you know it's
  32. 01:03many many signs but uh at the same time
  33. 01:05as you know when it's the day is
  34. 01:07everybody happy everybody's happy we're
  35. 01:09going to we're going to dance we're
  36. 01:10going to celebrate we're going to uh you
  37. 01:13know it's a ritual you can make a sad
  38. 01:14ritual or you can make a happy ritual
  39. 01:17you see it's time for him to depart time
  40. 01:19to go. So when I die, I want everybody
  41. 01:22to be happy. Okay? I don't want no
  42. 01:24sadness. I listen, my life is beyond
  43. 01:28what I thought, right? So I I give that
  44. 01:30same life to a dog. Same is I'm very
  45. 01:33dedicated human seven days a week. Uh uh
  46. 01:37even if I don't feel good, it doesn't
  47. 01:39matter. I go and walk that pack.
  48. 01:42I'm very committed,
  49. 01:43right? [clears throat] It's all about
  50. 01:44honor. It's all about respect. It's
  51. 01:46that's my way of showing my heart. And
  52. 01:48in my mind, I don't have one day that I
  53. 01:51I did wrong by them. So when it's time
  54. 01:53for them to go, it's time for them to
  55. 01:55go, but we're going to make happy about
  56. 01:56it because they're going back to God.
  57. 01:58That's how I see it. And you know, as
  58. 02:00you as you as you're talking about that,
  59. 02:01spirit never dies.
  60. 02:03Mhm.
  61. 02:03You know, spirit never dies. And it's an
  62. 02:05opening for me to help another soul and
  63. 02:07another soul because that's what that's
  64. 02:09why I'm here, right? I'm here uh on
  65. 02:11earth to my time can be used wisely to
  66. 02:13keep helping
  67. 02:15and that's [clears throat] what I find
  68. 02:16you know my inspiration motivation.
  69. 02:19That's it.
  70. 02:21Beautiful. Not what I expected and I'm
  71. 02:23so pleasantly surprised. I uh it
  72. 02:27challenges me to even say it cuz he's
  73. 02:29still so new. But when Strummer dies,
  74. 02:31the last uh 24 hours of his life will be
  75. 02:33a celebration with him.
  76. 02:35Yeah. Celebration.
  77. 02:36All right.
  78. 02:37Yeah. He says happy spirit. you know,
  79. 02:39sing, laugh, dance, you know, uh just
  80. 02:42happiness
  81. 02:44cuz they once you start going like this,
  82. 02:45they don't they they get worried,
  83. 02:48you know, and then the spirit lingers
  84. 02:51and you don't want it. You just wanted
  85. 02:53to go, you know, and for them to give
  86. 02:55you direction, protection. This, you
  87. 02:57know, I have a big pack on heaven.
  88. 03:00You definitely have a big pack waiting
  89. 03:01for you.
  90. 03:02When I go home, you I'm going to have
  91. 03:05the, you know, how many dogs have I
  92. 03:06saved my life,
  93. 03:08man. So you Yeah, I'm going home.
  94. 03:11I love it.
  95. 03:12You know, Earth is a beautiful home, but
  96. 03:13it's temporary.
  97. 03:14Yeah. Well, I believe this, too. You
  98. 03:16know,
  99. 03:17I've talked a bit about my faith as now
  100. 03:19is not the time, but I'm, you know, my
  101. 03:21audience knows I'm very
  102. 03:22very much in in agreement that, you
  103. 03:25know, this is this is an amazing phase
  104. 03:26of us, but it's not the only phase. And
  105. 03:29so, if people are feeling
  106. 03:31uh sad, like, you know, the number of
  107. 03:33people I know who turn to their dog for
  108. 03:34emotional support
  109. 03:35Yes. around a loss of a loved one or a
  110. 03:38breakup or loss of a judges or the
  111. 03:40world, whatever.
  112. 03:41Yeah.

  113. How Dogs Absorb Human Energy

  114. 03:43What is your stance on that?
  115. 03:45It's bad because they're passing that
  116. 03:47energy. The dog doesn't know what
  117. 03:48happened.
  118. 03:49But I mean, obviously, they're going to
  119. 03:51help you absorb the energy, but after
  120. 03:52you did that, just take him to the beach
  121. 03:55so he can let go to the energy. Same
  122. 03:57thing when you bring a dog to a
  123. 03:58hospital, right? And the therapy dogs,
  124. 04:00they go to hospitals, you know, kids
  125. 04:02with cancer, D, depressed people, blah
  126. 04:05blah blah. That dog absorbs that energy.
  127. 04:08Okay? Just like you will and absorb
  128. 04:09people's energy, your job is to go and
  129. 04:12let it go.
  130. 04:13So every time you give bad energy as you
  131. 04:16know help people or help dogs to get rid
  132. 04:18of that energy that is not healthy for
  133. 04:20them. [clears throat]
  134. 04:20Yeah. Utilize it you know is is
  135. 04:23available. Uh but again you can also go
  136. 04:26and take a coach before you hug the dog
  137. 04:28and that way you kill that energy.
  138. 04:30[clears throat]
  139. 04:30You know, kill bad energy, just kill it.
  140. 04:32And only give good energy to your
  141. 04:34family. Give good energy to your home.
  142. 04:36It's discipline.
  143. 04:38It's easier to just to go and throw that
  144. 04:40negative energy that you just grab. It's
  145. 04:42easier. But then you spread that whole
  146. 04:44thing everywhere.
  147. 04:45Oh man, I saw in so many laboratories
  148. 04:48where the the boss, you know, brilliant
  149. 04:50scientists, I think one in particular,
  150. 04:53and they would do this like what I would
  151. 04:54call trickle down anxiety. They'd be
  152. 04:56stressed and they'd walk through the lab
  153. 04:57stressing out. Graduate school is
  154. 04:59already hard. Yeah. Especially in the if
  155. 05:01I may in the sciences. Yeah. Very very
  156. 05:03hard. Very competitive.
  157. 05:05Posttock is even more uncertain. Like
  158. 05:08you don't you don't get a degree at the
  159. 05:09end. You're investing five years of your
  160. 05:10life, you know, and for to walk around
  161. 05:12the boss walking around like making
  162. 05:14people anxious.
  163. 05:15Yeah.
  164. 05:15Terrible. The other thing that was
  165. 05:17terrible was walking around making
  166. 05:18people feel overly confident. People
  167. 05:19would do that too.
  168. 05:20So everything you're saying it's like

  169. Serving Your Dog's Needs

  170. 05:22you could see it in these very
  171. 05:23hierarchical human relationships. But I
  172. 05:26think with dogs, we we're so I'm just
  173. 05:29going to say it. I feel like
  174. 05:31we are so selfish
  175. 05:33as a species like that these animals are
  176. 05:36here for us and just for us to give me
  177. 05:38love when I get home to console me when
  178. 05:40I'm sad to give me all the things I
  179. 05:42want.
  180. 05:42Yeah.
  181. 05:43That I would be blind to the the basic
  182. 05:46needs of that animal. It's it's really
  183. 05:48is it's as selfish in my opinion as
  184. 05:51saying, "Oh, these are animals that we
  185. 05:53work on that just serve our purposes to
  186. 05:55advance our careers or scientific
  187. 05:57understanding." And again, there's a
  188. 05:58place for that, but we have to be
  189. 05:59incredibly nuanced about where that's
  190. 06:02appropriate and where it's
  191. 06:03inappropriate.
  192. 06:04It's just a selfishness,
  193. 06:05the selfish part and the unselfish part.
  194. 06:08So, what I'm saying is don't forget, you
  195. 06:10know, to be at service before somebody's
  196. 06:12at service to you,
  197. 06:14right? So, the spirit instinct love to
  198. 06:15be at service. And then the the the love
  199. 06:18and and the mind loves to be served.
  200. 06:21So this is your selfish part of it. And
  201. 06:24this is your unselfish part of it.
  202. 06:26You see it? So you're here to serve God
  203. 06:29and you're here to serve earth. All
  204. 06:30right? So you don't forget that,
  205. 06:33right? To be at service because they
  206. 06:36skip it. So once you once you go
  207. 06:37directly to the heart and the mind, this
  208. 06:39is what I want. I want my dog to love
  209. 06:40me. Okay, fine. You just skip spirited
  210. 06:43instinct,
  211. 06:45right? Because a spirit will never bring
  212. 06:46bad energy to the heart
  213. 06:49and in instinct will never bring bad
  214. 06:51energy to the mind. You see?

  215. Managing Your Personal Energy

  216. 06:54So, so if you remember that you are four
  217. 06:57things and and this is what you want to
  218. 07:00give to your dog, to yourself, to your
  219. 07:01house, to your family, and then you're
  220. 07:03going to be focusing on on on making
  221. 07:05sure that uh you snap out of it whatever
  222. 07:08like you do on yourself
  223. 07:10to snap out of it,
  224. 07:11right? And then and then you go bring,
  225. 07:14you know, patience, calmness, confident,
  226. 07:15love, and then you go hug the dog. Mhm.
  227. 07:18So, you also have to learn to snap
  228. 07:19yourself out of it from whatever energy
  229. 07:22you went and attract. It's it's like
  230. 07:24stepping on poop. You got to remove your
  231. 07:26your shoe before you walk into the
  232. 07:28house. Otherwise, you bring that in. So,
  233. 07:30energy is the same way. It's like poop
  234. 07:32on your feet.
  235. 07:34Bad energy is the same. You're going to
  236. 07:36spray all over the house. Absolutely.
  237. 07:37Your plants are going to die. You know,
  238. 07:40your dogs are going to be like, "Okay,
  239. 07:41this energy is is not good." So, we
  240. 07:44Right. And then your family will will
  241. 07:45get it. So you enter you're going to
  242. 07:48enter into this dark energy. [music]